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Half the men in Seattle are never-married singles, census data shows

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118 points blondie9x | 2 comments | 13 Apr 25 14:36 UTC | HN request time: 0.001s | source
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elric ◴[13 Apr 25 14:50 UTC] No.43673203[source]▶
How many of these never-married men are in a relationship? Unmarried != single. Stats on the number of singles who have never been in a relationship would be far more valuable.

Relationships, sexual or otherwise, are not subject to paperwork. The days of relationships, sex, or even reproduction being tied to marriage are long gone.

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jimbob45 ◴[13 Apr 25 14:56 UTC] No.43673245[source]▶
Anecdotal but my friends don’t try at all anymore or they don’t put in any effort and pretend that’s not their problem (read: you need to shower daily).

It’s stupid because the combination of singles mixers, tinder, and community events make it very easy to find a partner (keeping them is another story) but nobody wants to try. I’m of the opinion that porn has sapped their will to find women, even though it’s very possible to have a healthy relationship with porn and men have indeed had healthy relationships with porn throughout recorded history.

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xingped ◴[13 Apr 25 15:10 UTC] No.43673355[source]▶
> It’s stupid because the combination of singles mixers, tinder, and community events make it very easy to find a partner

Tell me you haven't tried to date in a decade without telling me. Dating is more in the ditches than it has ever been.

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1. fwip ◴[13 Apr 25 15:58 UTC] No.43673728[source]▶
I feel like most people would tell you that it's harder to date than it used to be, because most people are older than they used to be. That is, you're generally "less attractive" (in a median sort of way), as well as having stronger opinions about who/what you like. So your standards have come up, and your general desirability has gone down - so of course dating is going to feel more like a slog than when there were promising potential partners were around every corner.
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2. FeloniousHam ◴[14 Apr 25 13:17 UTC] No.43680946[source]▶
Data point of one: I'm older, and my experience with the apps was more than mostly positive. I hadn't dated in years, and with the exception of a couple clunkers, all my dates were fun and friendly. In every match, there was a lot of texting, and I put in a lot of effort.

Nobody was a swimsuit model, but I'm not either. I might be I've crossed the threshold where looks are less important than personality (looks are still important!).

Everyone I dated mentioned that their experience with the apps mostly sucked though.