For the issue in Proebsting's paradox, one simple approach I've found successful is to gradually accumulate your full bet as the betting lines progress to their ultimate positions. This works even in illiquid markets where your bets affect the lines, since it gives the other participants less room to suddenly react to what you're doing. (Though you always have the slight worry of a huge last-second bet that
you can't react to, eBay-auction style.)
As for the actual probability being different from the expected probability, that's not too difficult to account for. Just set up a distribution (more or less generous depending on your risk tolerance) for where you believe the actual probability may lie, and work out the integrals as necessary, recalling that you want to maximize expected log-value. It's not the trivial Kelly formula, but it's exactly the same principle in the end.