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TrackerFF ◴[] No.42192247[source]
For some, home is where the heart is.

I've lived in 11 major cities around the world for the past 25 years, but in the end I moved back home to my rural hometown, in my home country. Remote work made that possible. I make probably 20% of what I could have done in high-COL areas like the Bay Area.

But I have a fantastic work-life balance. Make good money, relative to my peers. Clock in 9, clock out 4. Get to spend lots of time on my hobbies, never work any weekends. Live in a peaceful place with zero crime, everything is a 5 min walk from my home. Hiking trail is practically 50m from my doorstep. Family and friends live close by.

I did spend some time fighting FOMO of not living in a big city, which held me back from moving home - but COVID kind of accelerated that decision.

With that said, I always say to younger people that they should try to move out in their 20s-30s, see the world. I've never met anyone that regretted on "traveling too much".

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david-gpu ◴[] No.42192536[source]
> I've never met anyone that regretted on "traveling too much".

And yet you eventually decided that it wasn't for you and you chose to go back home.

There are pros and cons to all possibilities, whether it is staying put, traveling as a tourist, or immigrating in a foreign country. People rarely grasp the true costs of immigrating until it is too late -- I've seen several remarkably similar examples.

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viraptor ◴[] No.42192607[source]
They didn't say they traveled too much. Deciding to stop something doesn't mean you overdid it.
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david-gpu ◴[] No.42192709[source]
> They didn't say they traveled too much.

Indeed, that is my point: their actions did not march their narrative. They eventually realized that it wasn't all that great and corrected course.

If being abroad was such a universally positive choice as they claim, they would have remained abroad.

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Melonotromo ◴[] No.42193138[source]
You are mixing up different things and you don't get the point...

1. traveling gives you experiences. You don't need to travel constantly to learn and gain from traveling.

2. Moving away from home (abroad or to a big city) gives you again a lot of new experiences. New insights, new world view.

If i move home today, i'm a complet different person than my friends which never left and while certain things might look the same from the outside, its not.

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1. david-gpu ◴[] No.42193231[source]
> You are mixing up different things and you don't get the point

Of course I understand the upsides of traveling, and even moving abroad. I have done both myself. Here is the first comment I made on this thread:

>>> There are pros and cons to all possibilities, whether it is staying put, traveling as a tourist, or immigrating in a foreign country.

What most people who repeat these memes of "moving abroad gives you new experiences and perspectives" miss is all the negatives that can come with that. I have tried to inform people of some of the downsides that often come along with the positives, based on my experience and that of people I know.

If people want to stick to overly simplistic ideas about living abroad, they are free to do so. But I would feel I'm doing them a disservice if I did not warn of the downsides -- I wish somebody had told me about them before I left.

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2. rex_gallorum2 ◴[] No.42196752[source]
Again, you are absolutely correct, and for more reasons than most casual readers here will know.