It feels like as a community, it would be useful to get more articles seeing things from the other side and exploring functional approaches beyond provide-a-worst-case-scenario-estimate.
There's a reason this dynamic is so pervasive. In order for everyone in an organization to do their job well, people do often need a realistic set of estimates. Can sales promise the prospect this integration? Can marketing plan a launch for the new feature? Can the CPO make a reasonable bet on a new line of work?
In my experience, the nuance here is more about handling the mis-estimates. How do we discuss the risks up front? How much work should we put into contingency planning? How do we handle the weeks / months before a deadline when it is clear that we need to limit scope?