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Treating bullying as everyone's problem reduces incidence in primary schools

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175 points PaulHoule | 3 comments | 16 Nov 24 14:34 UTC | HN request time: 0s | source
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dr_dshiv ◴[17 Nov 24 00:54 UTC] No.42161003[source]▶
I’m sometimes confused why “evilizing” bullies is ok. The way they get identified seems dehumanizing. “They are the bad kid.” Maybe they are! But it seems like lots of good kids bully — ie it is normal human nature. Teasing, etc.

Obviously “normal” teasing or “lite” bullying aren’t the reason bullying can be so psychologically traumatic. But I feel any approach can’t be quite right if it fights bullying by dehumanizing bullies. Especially since “hurt people hurt people” and kids are kids.

Not that anyone needs to stand up for bullies, but you know, I’m curious if someone has an opinion about this.

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1. justinclift ◴[17 Nov 24 01:32 UTC] No.42161224[source]▶
> lots of good kids bully

Your concept of what a "good kid" is seems a bit off?

If they're being a bully, then aren't they by definition not real good, regardless of how they're pretending towards others?

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2. dr_dshiv ◴[17 Nov 24 11:21 UTC] No.42163503[source]▶
You are making it black and white — like some kids “are” bullies. I’m suggesting that most kids bully, some times.
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3. justinclift ◴[18 Nov 24 01:26 UTC] No.42168901[source]▶
> most kids bully

Sounds like your experience is different to mine, as I'm not aware of that being the case.