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    naming_the_user ◴[] No.42056718[source]
    What comes across from the article to me is the class barrier more than the gender one - basically it's a posh person finding out what the "real world" looks like.

    Shop talk and banter are fairly universal. Any difference is going to be a target. Thin bloke who doesn't look strong enough? Ginger hair? Tall guy, short guy? Weird tattoo, etc. Definitely the one black guy or the one white guy is going to get shit. But is it malicious? Almost certainly not.

    The other thing, which in my experience is relatively common worldwide, is that working class communities are more accepting of male-female dynamics. In academia and in highbrow society the tendency is to basically sanitise every social interaction. When you're in an environment where that isn't happening then you can't suddenly ignore it any more.

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    1. aaplok ◴[] No.42057392[source]
    Well there is this though:

    > Women in trades have reported encounters with customers who doubted their competence and who refused to deal with them, seeking a man instead.

    There is plenty of low key sexism (and racism) like that among white collars too so it is not restricted to trades (as acknowledged by the article's author), but this goes beyond banter like just teasing someone because they have red hair.

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    2. orwin ◴[] No.42059526[source]
    I think GP is right though.

    Real sexism is way more present among middle-class/white-collar workers (whatever their gender is) than between blue collar workers. You will have poorly worded jokes from your coworkers, but the ass-grab or demeaning remarks will always be from managers (the kind of manager who don't know the trade or inherited the job) or customers.

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    3. notahacker ◴[] No.42062574[source]
    See, I kind of agree that there are certain types of sexism like assumptions that women won't get their hands dirty or patronising artificial politeness that are purely middle class constructs.

    But the idea that only white collar workers are capable of ass-grabs or genuinely derogatory remarks is wild...

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    4. dmix ◴[] No.42062767{3}[source]
    He claimed “more prevalent” not “only white collar does x”
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    5. notahacker ◴[] No.42062982{4}[source]
    He also claimed the ass-grabs and demeaning remarks will "always" be from managers [without trade experience]. Which is wild.
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    6. markus_zhang ◴[] No.42064206[source]
    Yeah that's normal, like we short fat guys are never popular with girls. Learnt that from teenages and firmly believe that biologically people look down on each other.
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    7. orwin ◴[] No.42064320{5}[source]
    It is only when someone think they have power over someone else that they allow themselves to be inappropriate on the workplace. My mom was a nurse before forming nurses, and lived through that (from doctors especially). Her best friend was a security guard at diverse places, but she started at a mall (where she has "wild" stories as you put it. Confirmed 100% always her manager or customers, once the day manager was put on ice for harassment, his replacement ended the night by touching her butt the day he arrived. Crazy that people do that).

    But even closer to me, and more recently: i know a woman who work in a call center, and she explained to me the reason why it's always managers on the workplace: the other don't have the time to play powergames with each other, they have too much work (for her it was a female manager who learned of her homosexuality who started to get touchy).

    I stand by that. Obviously it is different in non-work settings, but at work?

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    8. RHSeeger ◴[] No.42065186{6}[source]
    My guess would be that it's less about "position of power" and more about "less likely to face consequences". You see the same type of behavior in a variety of cases

    - Construction workers hooting and whistling at women

    - Gamers online being horrible to _everyone_

    - Managers (as noted) sexually harassing employees

    All cases were consequences for behaving badly are far less likely.

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    9. mock-possum ◴[] No.42066474{6}[source]
    > It is only when someone think they have power over someone

    Isn’t that kind of the point though? That the racist and the sexist and the queerbasher think they have power over the group they’re bigoted against - and that’s what lends them the confidence to act mean?

    10. UniverseHacker ◴[] No.42069705{7}[source]
    What is power, if not the ability to do what you want without facing consequences? If other people already support you or are indifferent, no power is needed to do what you want.
    11. johnnyanmac ◴[] No.42070877[source]
    societally. what amounts to attractiveness can vary a lot more than you think throughout cultures and times.

    But yes, people have always been in competition biologically to flaunt success and pick the best mating partner. You can do that through putting others down or otherwise controlling a mate. And the dimorphic needs between sexes only intensifies this. I'm no sociologist but I wouldn't be surprised if this is a universal experience.

    12. lazyasciiart ◴[] No.42073017[source]
    That’s an optimistic take, for instance there’s a lot of physical sexual harassment and even rape reported as occurring between members of the military, and infantry at least seems to code as blue collar.