Try starting a conversation with a FE engineer friend or even better with a UX engineer / design technologist if you know one. They speak both languages :)
If you prefer reading, NNgroup is great for basics. Start with their 10 usability heuristics: https://www.nngroup.com/articles/ten-usability-heuristics/
These 3 books should give you some great starting points:
About Face - The Essentials of Interaction Design: https://www.wiley.com/en-gb/About+Face%3A+The+Essentials+of+...
Design of Everyday Things: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Design_of_Everyday_Things
Creative Selection: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/37638098-creative-select...