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DidYaWipe ◴[] No.41856470[source]
Creepy and misguided. Do people stare at you fixedly and unwaveringly during in-person conversations?

And if they do, do you like it?

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HKH2 ◴[] No.41858245[source]
If you mean someone listening is actually staring (without changing their facial expressions), then of course that's weird, but if they are adjusting their facial expressions to show reactions without looking away, what's wrong with that?
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JohnFen ◴[] No.41859210[source]
> if they are adjusting their facial expressions to show reactions without looking away, what's wrong with that?

A whole lot. Even if they have varying facial expressions, not looking away is creepy as hell because looking away during conversations is actually an important aspect of the communication. Not looking away is sending a nonverbal message, and none of the usual ways that's interpreted are positive.

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1. HKH2 ◴[] No.41865668[source]
Are you talking about the people listening or the person speaking? I was talking about the former, whereas you seem to be talking about the latter.
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2. JohnFen ◴[] No.41868376[source]
I'm talking about both.
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3. HKH2 ◴[] No.41876307[source]
I guess it depends on how comfortable you are with what the speaker is saying. If you are not sure you agree or you want to think about something else, then it's normal to look away.