> That's all well and good, but what would you do exaclty?
Start with having the standards committee accept that they are in fact where the buck stops, and that the language includes, whether they like it or not, the toolchain. They don't have to decide upon the toolchain, but their current MO of "toolchain/ABI issue == not our problem (except for when we decide we're not willing to make any backwards incompatible ABI changes, but only sometimes)." The vendors are already jumping through hoops to support what is being standardised (modules being the perfect example here).
I can't speak for std.complex as I've never had to use it, but I think initializer list would be a great example of "how much better would this be if it was special cased into the compiler". The benefit we would get from initialisation being consistent with the compiler far outweighs the benefit of being able to use libc++'s initialiser list with clang.
> There is really no fundamental difference between the two.
Except there is. If I write an implementation of the standard library, and provide an implementation of std span as (abbreviated) - https://gcc.godbolt.org/z/c1sz4neKG it's got to respect the various conventions instead of being treated as an opaque type (like a slice in go). If it's a `_Span`, the compiler is free to go "ok you're using this thing that I know all the internals of, and can reason about. I can elide bounds checks that don't pass muster, I can specify that I will generate code for this specific type that puts extent and data as registers in the following cases". But instead, on x64 (where I work 99% of the time so it's where my effort/knowledge is, sorry), we're bound by >64 == memory.
Now, you might call that a QOI issue, but I'd call it a design flaw that could have avoided an implementation issue, that we see on many features.