The Missing Missing Reasons

> Members who have aired their children's grievances outside the endlessly enabling warmth of estranged parents' forums have been stung by people who took their children's side, and they've learned not to give their opponents ammunition

I.e. just another bubble of circle jerking losers who can't handle recognizing their own role in things.

What else is on.

"Man, you know, I give an uninvolved, objective stranger my slanted version of the truth, without all the other people being present to give their side. How is it that they can still figure out that it all may have been my fault? They must be trolling me!"

"Come on, why can't you see I was totally right in coming out to the skate park and smacking around that 18-year-old brat in front of everyone. He was failing school! Well, that's the last time I reveal that episode to any person outside of the estranged parents' forum where everyone is smart and agrees with everything I say."

Well... You're not wrong, anyway. These forums are filled with dysfunctional people who have caused a lot of pain and suffering to their children. They're not good people, by any metric.

But I disagree that it's an uninteresting topic. The adult children of these parents are often struggling in their own lives with problems that directly tie back to their dysfunctional parenting.

For those adult children, it's critical to the healing process to come to an understanding that their parents behavior was not OK or normal.

If this isn't interesting to you, personally, that's OK... But then wouldn't it make more sense to just sit out of the discussion, and find another topic to comment on? By dismissing it, you run the risk of coming off as insensitive or disrespectful to the people who do benefit from participating in this kind of discussion.