I imagine that if you're on these forums and you, first, don't recognize your own shortcomings; don't understand or care about how you've emotionally affected those around you; always assume you're the victim even when you're in a position of authority and care; and refuse to acknowledge or accept the other person's point of view - then this is not just a defense mechanism against online criticism, but the actual reason you've become estranged from your children. This is kind of obvious to me, but at the same time parents really do seem to blame their kids, as if it was god who gave them rotten ones instead of accepting the responsibility for making them in the first place.