Watching a family member fade and the glimpses of them here and there can be horrific.
My father died when I was 9.
Decades later I watched my mother in law dissolve (and she was very much aware / terrified all the time) over the course of a decade. I think it altered and traumatized my wife's entire family in a way I'm not sure they understand or have dealt with.
Sudden death seems so much more humane.
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